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Allison Feckless Swooner
Joined: 17 Dec 2001 Posts: 12287 | TRs | Pics Location: putting on my Nikes before the comet comes |
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Tue Aug 05, 2003 3:04 pm
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Seems more and more that I'm seeing that people are not "allowed" (or whatever the terms...) to go out hiking or backpacking with poeple of the opposite sex by their SOs. This has been a recurring situation I've seen.
I may be opening a huge can of worms here, but I'm curious as to why. In my case, my BF goes with me whenever he can, but he can't always, so I get out with other people quite often. I forget it's an issue and then it becomes a sort of problem again. That said, I generally don't share a tent with a guy other than my BF, but that has more to do with snoring than almost anything else.
Maybe I'm incredibly naive, but in my mind, once you're in a relationship, getting out with people of the opposite sex should be no big deal. Am I missing something? Besides the opportunity to do as many trips as I want to, in large part due to a difficulty in finding partners? I do have some women I get out with, but not every one of them is into the sorts of trips I like to take.
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Tom Admin
Joined: 15 Dec 2001 Posts: 17835 | TRs | Pics
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Tue Aug 05, 2003 3:25 pm
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Marylou, no problem here, except a 2 person tent + earplugs is lighter than 2 tents. But getting back on topic... who is the loudest snorer: Erik the Nav, Randy, or Mtn Goat? My money is on Mtn Goat.
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foggy Member
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Tue Aug 05, 2003 3:36 pm
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I'm one of the lucky ladies. I go hiking with whoever I want too. My husband would love to go on every trip, but that's not reality with his work schedule, he says at least one of us are getting out and that's a good thing. Not only that, but I will come home and tell him whether it's a trail he would like or not. I guess I'm his guinea pig, so to speak. He has no problem with me bping with women or men, he knows me and trusts me, I would hope so after nearly a quarter century together. I probably would not share my tent with another guy either. Tom wants to know who snores the loudest, well it isn't any guy I know, but one of the women we went backpacking with and I'll spare her name, so I don't embarass her.
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Allison Feckless Swooner
Joined: 17 Dec 2001 Posts: 12287 | TRs | Pics Location: putting on my Nikes before the comet comes |
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Allison
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Tue Aug 05, 2003 3:36 pm
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I've heard pretty loud snoring from a number of people around here!
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Hiker Boy Hinking Fool
Joined: 18 Feb 2002 Posts: 1569 | TRs | Pics Location: Northern Polar Icecap |
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Hiker Boy
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Tue Aug 05, 2003 3:41 pm
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I can go hiking with anyone I want and have often shared my tent with a member of the opposite sex (who has ear plugs). In fact one of my regular hiking partners was one and then she had to move away. My wife had no problems with it. My wife's way of thinking is I spend much of my time working with women in a hospital so why shouldn't I hike with them as well?
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kiliki Member
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Tue Aug 05, 2003 4:38 pm
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The people that have a problem with opposite sex hiking/camping are the same people that have a problem with all sorts of opposite sex activities (movies, dinner, etc etc)-insecure, distrustful control freaks. I can't imagine why anyone would put up with that sh*t from a significant other.
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Allison Feckless Swooner
Joined: 17 Dec 2001 Posts: 12287 | TRs | Pics Location: putting on my Nikes before the comet comes |
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Allison
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Tue Aug 05, 2003 4:41 pm
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See, me neither, though I'm not sure if I'd be going out to dinner or movies with guys--that sounds a lot like "dating" to me. Already got one of those.
It's a pretty prevalent thing though, guys (gals?) whose SOs don't want them going out in the woods with a woman, especially one who is not married. Apparently we're predators!
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Erik the Nav Member
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Tom wrote: | Marylou, no problem here, except a 2 person tent + earplugs is lighter than 2 tents. But getting back on topic... who is the loudest snorer: Erik the Nav, Randy, or Mtn Goat? My money is on Mtn Goat. |
hey! I dunno about that. I'm not surrendering this competition easily here! A long day, a lot of tired, a triple-snort of whisky, and I do pretty good. I still don't believe it's every night. It's just that every night Allison is around meets the above conditions for a serious snore fest from yours truly. I got a chance to sample the Goat's efforts just recently. Impressive, but not -that- impressive.
Hmm, though thinking about it, his tent was 50' away and there was a crosswind between us.. maybe the Goat has more going for him than I'm giving credit for.
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Tue Aug 05, 2003 4:48 pm
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Tom wrote: | who is the loudest snorer: Erik the Nav, Randy, or Mtn Goat? |
It's easy to wear earplugs. But I find wearing a nose plug makes my mouth dry out. Who's the smelliest?
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Allison Feckless Swooner
Joined: 17 Dec 2001 Posts: 12287 | TRs | Pics Location: putting on my Nikes before the comet comes |
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Allison
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Tue Aug 05, 2003 4:48 pm
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Well I was a good 50' away from him on a trip last summer and I'd say it's pretty impressive.
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sarbar Living The Dream
Joined: 28 Jan 2002 Posts: 8055 | TRs | Pics Location: Freeland, Wa |
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Tue Aug 05, 2003 5:25 pm
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christy_E Member
Joined: 06 Dec 2002 Posts: 100 | TRs | Pics Location: Bonney Lake |
I'm a definite tent sharer.. it doesn't matter how warm it is out.. I am always cold. Just last month.. while out with rainrunner and sarbar.. I laid in my 15 bag.. and shivered myself to sleep.. and that was after I got into my silkies. I Remember Sar saying she was pretty much on top her bag she was so warm. Same with my kid.. sprawled out on top of it and here I was butting up against her to get warm. I NEED the body heat. And if you're a snorer... I have a good elbow or kick to me.
As for hiking with opposite sex.. works for me. But then again I'm single. The guy I hike with a lot is married. Don't think his wife knows about all the trips. <shrugs>
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Stefan Member
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Wed Aug 06, 2003 9:06 am
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marylou wrote: | Seems more and more that I'm seeing that people are not "allowed" (or whatever the terms...) to go out hiking or backpacking with poeple of the opposite sex by their SOs. This has been a recurring situation I've seen. |
My wife thinks you are after me. She thinks you want to rub coconut oil all over my muscles.
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Stefan Member
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Wed Aug 06, 2003 9:11 am
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marylou wrote: | Seems more and more that I'm seeing that people are not "allowed" (or whatever the terms...) to go out hiking or backpacking with poeple of the opposite sex by their SOs. This has been a recurring situation I've seen. |
Seriously though, I would rather see more women come on trips that I go on. Their insights and thoughts give a different perspective and it is appreciated. Hell, I am a lot slower now going on the downhill since my ankle accident, so women shouldn't be afraid of me and would go on my trips. Maybe my gas is just too bad--some of my compadres have expressed their thoughts on this.
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shoe lady Member
Joined: 29 Jul 2003 Posts: 12 | TRs | Pics Location: North Bend, WA |
Speaking from experience (being married 15 plus years to a person who no longer can physically do outdoor activities), I'd say that one problem that comes up is if you as a hiker do not share many other common interests with your SO, that person may become resentful of the time you spend hiking with people of the opposite sex. Also, if you acquired your interest in hiking and outdoor activities several years into the relationship, this may create a problem when there wouldn't be any if you'd already been hiking with other people when you met this person.
I did a backpacking trip around the Wonderland Trail last year and felt I made a good decision by taking an experienced male backpacker who was willing to show me all kinds of things to make the experience that much more fun. My husband did do a resupply for us at Mowich Lake and generally remained a good sport about it, but then I probably wouldn't do this every weekend.
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